Hey, remember me? You expeditiously married my wife and I on Wednesday, November 13, 2013 in a touching but fast ceremony at the counter of the Santa Clara County Clerk’s office.
You were surprised that we had flown “all the way to San Jose from Utah just to get married” that day. We told you that marriage equality wasn’t on the horizon in Utah, and we didn’t want to wait for our legal Federal rights any longer.
My wife and I were delighted to be married by a lesbian - it seemed only fitting that a lesbian in California - especially after Utah’s LDS Church meddled and temporarily suspended California’s own marriage equality - would marry us.
I’m sure you’ve seen the headlines and news stories about a Federal Judge’s recent ruling about Utah’s Amendment 3 same sex marriage ban - he declared the ban to be unconstitutional, and over 1000 happy gay and lesbian couples rushed out to marry. My wife and I renewed our vows in our home state, this time our marriage was officiated and witnessed by friends from home.
Yesterday, our state Governor indicated the state will not recognize our marriage, despite the marriage being legal at the time it was performed. Utah will fight against our legal marriage all the way to the Supreme Court, which could take years. In the meantime, our marriage will likely remain in limbo in the state of Utah.
Meanwhile, my wife and I will continue to be legally married in the eyes of the Federal government. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for being a part of our history as a married lesbian couple from Utah.